Why Relationships Leave You Confused and Second-Guessing Yourself.

Lackluster relationships

From the outside, you’ve got your life together. You’re career-driven, capable, and no stranger to hard work. However, in your personal life, especially in relationships, something consistently falls short of expectations.

You try to be steady, generous, the guy who gives it his all. But over time, your relationships tend to follow the same frustrating cycle: they start fast, feel exciting, then unravel. You get blindsided by emotional blowups, small lies that turn into big breakdowns, and suddenly, you're the bad guy.

You’ve heard words like “controlling” or even “narcissist” thrown your way, but they don’t reflect your intentions. In fact, you care deeply. Maybe too deeply. However, when you attempt to establish boundaries or speak honestly, things seem to fall apart.

And while part of you wonders if it’s your fault, another part is just… tired. Tired of trying to decode what went wrong. Tired of the volatility and even wondering if something’s wrong with you.

You’re not broken. But there’s some work to do.

I work with high-achieving men who want amazing, grounded relationships, but keep getting stuck in patterns that leave them questioning their worth, their masculinity, and their ability to trust themselves.

Many of my clients have been told, explicitly or implicitly, that they shouldn’t feel what they feel. That being emotional or sensitive makes them weak. That they need to be the one who “fixes it,” even though they’re also in pain.

They often come in saying:
“I feel like I’m always the one putting my needs aside.”
“Why do I always pull away?”
“I don’t know if I’m being sensitive or settling for too little.”

Sound familiar?

Working with me

In our work, we’ll explore the patterns underneath your pain, not to label you, but to help you build the relationship and life you actually want.

You don’t have to become a “nice guy,” lose your edge, or check your ambition at the door.

We’ll dig into how anxiety, avoidance, shame, and old relational wounds may still be running the show, and how to replace those scripts with clarity, self-trust, and real emotional leadership.

I bring a blend of directness, lived experience, and emotional depth to our work. I won’t just nod and ask “how does that make you feel?” I’ll help you map out what’s going on, challenge the old beliefs you didn’t know were driving your relationships, and build new ways to relate that actually feel like you.

Yes, we’ll get into real tools. Yes, we will laugh and celebrate your wins without always getting in the emotional weeds.

This is the kind of therapy that works with who you are, not against it.